When it comes to pleasing the woman in your life, having your technique down is essential. Conventional wisdom dictates that bringing her to a mind-blowing orgasm is all about the size of your manhood. However, many women will not admit that it’s less about the size of your penis than it is how you touch her body. Giving a woman oral sex is about more than giving her a lick and a promise. As her lover, you need to take the time, the focus, and the dedication to pleasure her if you want her to stay around and if you want her to take that same time, focus, and dedication in pleasuring you.
TAKE IT SLOW
Cunnilingus is a marathon, not a sprint. Don’t rush. Begin with soft kisses around her clit, lips, and inner thighs. Tease her. A fast lick just lets her know you don’t want to take the time to arouse her; and nobody likes a selfish lover.
Use your tongue to best trace lines along the folds of her labia and around her clit. Occasionally, push your tongue inside of her. But above all, don’t rush. The more deliberate you are as a lover, the more gratified you will be when it’s her turn on you.
CHANGE PACE AND FOCUS
Every woman is different. It’s important to pay attention to what the woman you are with likes and responds to. Some women like when you push your tongue up inside them. Some women respond to clitoral licking more than others. Many men focus too much on the vagina and not enough on the clit.
Gently circling her clit with your tongue, changing direction and speed, will create waves and waves of pleasure for her. You can even change it up a little by licking up and down on her clit, expanding that to licking the length of her labia. Speed up. Slow down. By changing pace and not being doggedly focused on just her clit or just her labia, you can build undulating waves of building orgasms. Also, it’s crucial to remember that women can have multiple orgasms. If you’re doing your job right, she will. If she does, she will show her appreciation.
Keep in mind that there is nothing wrong with using your fingers. Use your fingers inside of her. Rub her anus while you lick her clit. Reach up and play with one of her breasts. You are a more sexual being than just your penis. When you go down on her right, your entire body is a penis.
LET HER KNOW YOU ENJOY HER
Nothing kills a mood like robotic sex. Sure, you have a technique and you know it works. However, if you are too mechanical or too unemotional, you might find yourself being ejected from the holiest of holies before you even really get to worship. You need to let your woman know you enjoy her. It’s entirely likely that she primped and prepared for you. Show your appreciation not only with time and focus, but in the sounds you make and things you while taking time to take a breath. An orgasm is as much about being mentally stimulated as it is being physically stimulated. If you make sure she knows you appreciate her, she is more likely to reciprocate.